What I Learned About Writing and Myself In 30 Days


I began a journey, 30 days ago. Writing and blogging, everyday. For 30 days straight.

The original purpose of the goal was to kickstart my writing, get over the fear of publishing and let people into my world. I desperately needed to create the habit of being CONSISTENT, stick to a goal, see it through to the end.

It wasn’t all SUNSHINE and RAINBOWS. The first five days were great. The stream of ideas for creating content, flowed from my brain. Like a tap had been turned on FULL blast.

I won the battle against the fear of making my creations PUBLIC, for all to see. I quickly learned that no one really cared.

At first, this was a blessing.

On day eleven, I suddenly decided that the goal I set wasn’t important to me. I proceeded to talk myself out of continuing. Telling myself that it was OK to quit and change directions. Find a new project, something easier. Something that might make a bigger difference.

I mentioned it in casual conversation with my sister, the analyst. She asked me some hard questions about the goal and my original intentions. She questioned my reasons for wanting to go in a different direction. She dug into why I was feeling the need to abandon my goal.

It soon came tumbling out that I was a little disheartened. No one (except my daughter) was reading my work, or at least that is what I thought. I was struggling to stay motivated when it seems that no one is listening. My ego was using this knowledge in attempt to get me to quit. My Modus Operandi, get part way through something, get bored, drop the project like a hot potato.

She encouraged me to focus on the original INTENT, not on something my ego was trying to tell me. My motivation and drive immediately returned, back to the task at hand, completing my 30-day goal. My faith in myself restored. I knew I was CAPABLE of completing the goal, I just got lost in the noise in my head.

I wish I could say the following days were easier. All I can say is that they weren’t as hard. I survived and as the days crawled closer to the finish line, something happened. I began to find inspiration EVERYWHERE, the words I needed appeared as I wrote, almost as if out of thin air.

The last couple of days, things improved even more, I happily started to compose my blogs a day ahead of schedule. Reducing the stress of coming home from a long day at work, typing frantically into the late hours of the evening, just so I could complete the day’s blog.

Here are a few of the lessons I learned:

NOTHING is ever perfect. Don’t get bogged down with too much detail and STOP over analyzing everything you do. Be ‘Perfectly Imperfect’ in everything you do. You want to make sure that you do your BEST but when you start to stress about it being perfect for everyone, you automatically set yourself up for failure. There is NO perfect. You will never please EVERYONE, so stop trying.

Just because you don’t think anyone is reading it (based solely on lack of claps on Medium) doesn’t mean that you aren’t having an effect on someone. You can’t always tell who is reading your work. If you can reach just one person, have them relate to something you’ve said, then every struggle, hurdle and doubt has been worth it.

Stay true to your goals. If your ego starts to tell you that what you are doing is silly and a waste of time, take that as a sign that you are onto something important. Important for YOU to continue along the path. YOU need to finish the project, especially if you have a habit of changing direction part way through. Don’t let doubt stop you from staying on task. Recognize when your ego is trying to trip you up. Have a back up plan. Talk to someone who supports you. Ask for advice!

As I complete this journey, I am already planning the next 30 days. Without a plan, the motivation and drive will disappear. This is true in everything that people do. Remember the SMART rules for planning and set your sights on the best future you want. Write it down. Post it somewhere visible. Find an accountability partner. STAY FOCUSED!


I will post three times a week for the next six months, up to May 12, 2018. The reduction is to allow me to spend more time on the topics, reaching out to people, connecting with others. By connecting with others, I hope to encourage others to reach out when they need love, assistance, a helping hand.

“Collecting the dots. Then connecting them. And then sharing the connections with those around you. This is how a creative human works. Collecting, connecting, sharing.” – Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking

Be FEARLESS in your goals. Don’t be afraid to ask. Always be willing to lend a hand.



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